Not tending to your spiritual life is like buying a mansion and letting the weeds crack the foundation.
"The unexamined life is not worth living", Socrates
I grew up devoid of spirituality in all forms. But my life took a new turn when deep inquiry into my identity, happiness, and fulfillment led me to a place of expansion. As a byproduct, I healed years of nihilism, trauma, depression, and anxiety. What came out was a rich spiritual life, spiritual, metaphysical, and philosophical inquiry, and connection to The Everything.
And guess what, this looks different for everyone, and that’s the point.
You’ve just never been told before that it’s worth the inquiry.
And the thing is, you do need a teacher, a guide, a companion when you’re at this stage. This isn’t the part of the journey you walk alone.
So, if you're miserable in life, asking if there’s more, feeling you’re made for big things but don’t know why you can’t get there, or struggling to move to the next phase, a spiritual mentor might be the next place to look. This is modern-day Spiritual Direction for the 21st-century seeker.
This is where I come in. I WISH I had mentors all my life. We’re deeply in need of them.
And I’m a real person. Working a real corporate job, making art, holding a loving relationship, looking towards children, achievement, business, and supporting my community. I’m not a bimbo who moved to Bali (love you guys). I’m here to tell you that you can do this exactly where you are without drastically changing your life.
A mentor is someone, typically a few steps ahead of you, who can help you on the path. That’s the role I’m here to fill.
What does “tending to a spiritual life” even mean?
Tending to a spiritual life means treating your inner life like something that needs care to stay alive — the way a garden or a relationship does.
It's not about belief, or specific rituals you're supposed to perform (but I have plenty for you), or getting somewhere holy (but that can happen). It's the ongoing practice of staying connected to what's true for you, underneath the noise, within the noise, and returning back to yourself over and over.
Practically, it looks like small, repeated acts of paying attention. Noticing what you already know and not talking yourself out of it. Making room for quiet so you can actually hear yourself. Engaging with live creatively, intuitively, and being honest about what's real for you instead of what you're “supposed” to feel. If you work with me, we will remove any SHOULDS from your vocabulary. The idea is to get away from letting your life be shaped by everyone else's plan and becoming the sovereign, autonomous, free agent you are.
Most people don't tend to it at all — not because they don't care, but because no one taught them it was a thing you do, on purpose, over and over. And what happens? They wake up at 45 or 50 to be like Where is my life, and what have I been doing?
It goes untended and then one day feels far away. Tending is just choosing to come back. Again and again.
When you do this, what often happens is:
You build a strong muscle of discernment
You don’t let outside voices determine your life choices
Your life expands, creatively, expressively — you feel more
You know what you value and what matters to you, but you also let it change with new information and experience because it always will
You follow your instinct and intuition easily
You no longer fear when there is nothing to fear
You find security in yourself, in God
You build a relationship with the Divine (Great Spirit, The Everything, God, etc.)
You trust more
You move through life with more ease
Your capacity increases (you can actually take on more)
Your inquiry becomes deeper and richer
You can hold the problems and experiences of the 21st century (which are spiritual problems) and help others
